do you go for he who loves you? or for who you fell for ? incline towards? or merely admire? what if they are not the same person? what does love mean in each case? what does love mean in general rather? is one way better than the other? do you love with your mind? or do you love with heart as conventionally known? can you love with both? is love an emotion? or is it a thought? a belief? an idea? a social construct? or is it ‘real’?
what does that mean for love? what would the implications be in terms of emotional well-being? what does that mean for growth? what would the implications be in terms of mental well-being? what does that mean for feeling a sense of comfort, tranquility, safety, intimacy, and even home? what does that mean to ‘home’? can a person be your home? a person’s heart, rather?
is that which is far from the eyes, far from the heart? is it true that true love only gets stronger with distance? and if it fades then it never was?
what if you like the idea of someone liking you, but not inherently liking the person? how do you know if you like someone for ‘them’ & who they are, or for the ‘idea’ of them? & how do you know if they like you – inherently for you? or merely the ‘idea’ of the ‘package’ you come with? isn’t it tricky to get out of that paradox?
do you still call that love or attachment? how to know the difference between infatuation, attachment and love? can we even call that clinging feeling love before we have sacrificed anything as big as ‘signing our life away’ i.e marriage?
is it OK to ask some vulnerable questions? are people going to judge? can some of them think that they are immune to these contestations? can any of them think that they are immune to falling in love?
the reality is – that there is no right or wrong answer for all these questions. perhaps because there are no answers at all. or merely the answer could be: its complicated.